💑 Stages of Marriage 👫

 THE DIFFERENT STAGES OF MARRIAGE.

1. THE AMAZEMENT STAGE: This is the "wow" stage. Lots of new things to discover with your spouse. The newness, the freshness is so amazing. Sleeping on the same bed, wearing the same attire, cooking for him, doing house chores with her, bathing together. Wearing your dazzling wedding ring everywhere, turning people's head at the newest couple around. Loads and lots of fun. Sexual exploration and excitement. Being in control of your kitchen, feeding him and lots more. It's the honeymoon stage and it's so so beautiful.

2. THE IRRITATION STAGE: This is when you begin to notice weaknesses you have overlooked or blissfully wish they go away but didn't. The repetition of such weaknesses begins to work on your nerves and you are getting irritated: he snores a lot, she is slow in the kitchen, she belches loudly, he screams unnecessarily, she won't bathe before coming to bed or shave, he spends many hours watching football and ignores you when you talk. "What's just wrong with this guy?" You think aloud, well it's part of marriage.

3. THE ANGER STAGE: This is when the repetition of such weaknesses gets on your nerves and you display your anger. The introverted partners stuffs it in and either keep malice, avoid you or stubbornly continue with the irritating habit. It's the stage you begin to wonder: "have I really married the wrong guy?" "Have I married the wrong woman?" No, you did not, you are simply going through a phase together.

4. THE RESOLUTION STAGE: When you both begin to face the reality of marriage and acknowledge your partner's weaknesses. You eventually realize anger and malice does not solve any problem and begins to find ways to deal with your differences, both of you begin to compromise here and there and adjust to each other.

5. THE ACCEPTANCE STAGE: When it dawned on you that some things are just part of your partner and may never change. You resigned from anger, abuse and quarrel and choose to accept them, lovingly adjust to them and enjoy them regardless of their weaknesses.

6. THE RESTFUL STAGE:This is the stage you permanently accept them with all their strengths, weaknesses, short comings and flaws and love them unconditionally regardless of what they do. This is real love -agape, divine and true. You reconnect emotionally, spiritually and physically at a deeper level and enjoy honey moon again while building a lasting marriage regardless of the challenges you face.

There is no perfect marriage. Every marriage goes through this stages. How you handle it will determine if you will come out bitter or better.

You don't have to abuse your spouse or keep malice if God is at the centre of your home and you obey the word of God daily.

Nevertheless, do not be disappointed if you go through the unpleasant stages in marriage. It is a phase and will surely end.

Handle your marriage with wisdom and keep loving regardless of the challenges you face. That is what will make your marriage a heaven on earth experience. Thanks for reading.

➿ Die Empty ⚰

 

*Die empty*

The most beautiful book to read is "Die Empty" by Todd Henry.

The author was inspired and got this idea of writing ​​this book while attending a business meeting. 

When the director asked the audience: "Where is the richest land in the world?"

One of the audience answered: "Oil-rich Gulf states." 

Another added: "Diamond mines in Africa."

Then the director said: "No it is the cemetery. Yes, it is the richest land in the world, because millions of people have departed/died and they carried many valuable ideas that did not come to light nor benefit others. It is all in the cemetery where they are buried."

Inspired by this answer, Todd Henry wrote his book, "Die empty" where he did his best to motivate people to pour out their ideas and potential energies in their communities and turn them into something useful before it is too late.

The most beautiful of what he said in his book is: "Do not go to your grave and carry inside you the best that you have.

 *Always choose to die empty.*

The TRUE meaning of this  expression, is to die empty of all the goodness that is within you. Deliver it to the world, before you leave.

If you have an idea perform it.

If you have knowledge give it out.

If you have a goal achieve it.

Love, share and distribute, do not keep it inside.

Let’s begin to give. Remove and spread every atom of goodness inside us.

Start the race.

      💐☺ *Die Empty*😊💐

After death's life in Earth

 When you die, don't worry about your body...

Your relatives will do whatever it takes.

They will take off your clothes

They will wash you

They will dress you up

They will take you out of the house and deliver you to your new address.

Many will come to the funeral to honor you.

Some will even cancel their plans and ask for labor to go to the funeral.

Your things you didn't like to borrow will be sold, donated or burned.

Your keys

Your tools

Your books

Your CDs, DVDs, games

Your collections

Your clothes...

And be sure the world won't stop and cry for you.

The economy will continue.

You will be replaced in work. Someone with the same or even better ability will take your place.

Your property will switch to heirs.

And don't doubt that about you for the small and big things you have done in your life will speak, judge, doubt and criticize.

People who only knew you face will say, ′′ Poor thing!"

Your good friends will cry for a few hours or several days, but then they will laugh again.

Your pets will get used to the new owner.

Your pictures will be hanging on the wall for awhile, then they will be put on furniture and finally stored at the bottom of the box.

Someone else will sit on your couch and eat from it.

Deep pain in your home will last a week, two, one month, two, one year, two... Then you will join the memories and then your story will end.

It will end among people, end here, end in this world.

But your story begins in a new reality... in your life after death.

Your life is earthly where you couldn't move with the things you had here will lose the meaning they had.

the beauty of your body

Last name

property

loans

working position

bank account

the house

the car

academic titles

Classmates

trophies

Friends of the world

man / woman

the kids

the family...

In your new life, you will only need your soul.

The only property that will last is the soul.

So try to live your life full and be happy while you are here because, as Francis of Assisi said, ′′ You won't take what you have from here. You only take what you gave!"

What is life ?!

 A rich man looked through his window and saw a poor man picking something from his dustbin ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not poor.

The poor man looked around and saw a naked man misbehaving on the street ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not mad.

The mad man looked ahead and saw an ambulance carrying a patient ... He said, Thank GOD am not sick.

Then a sick person in hospital saw a trolley taking a dead body to the mortuary ... He said, Thank GOD I'm not dead.

Only a dead person cannot thank God.

Why don't you thank GOD today for all your blessings and for the gift of life ... for another beautiful day.

*What is LIFE*? - To understand life better, you have to go to 3 locations :

1. Hospital

2. Prison 

3. Cemetery

🏥 At the Hospital, you will understand that nothing is more beautiful than HEALTH.

🔐 In the Prison, you'll see that FREEDOM is the most precious thing.

💐 At the Cemetery, you will realize that life is worth nothing. The ground that we walk today will be our roof tomorrow.

*Sad Truth* : 

We all come with.. *nothing* and we will go with ....... *nothing* ... 

Let us, therefore, remain humble and be thankful & grateful to God at all times for everything.

🦁Real king🦉- 🐆Jungle story🦄

Once upon a time in a Jungle, not far away, a Jackass decided that he wanted to be the King of the Jungle. 

He hired a bunch of hyenas to groom him for the next elections and in return he promised them as many animals as they could eat. 

The hyenas laughed and agreed, getting down to work. 

"Only a Lion can be the King of the Jungle", a wise old owl said. 

So the hyenas designed a long flowing mane for the Jackass to wear around his face so that he looked a little bit like a lion. 

"He is still a Jackass", said the wise old owl.

So they put up posters of the Jackass everywhere across the jungle, saying he is a Lion, till all the animals were convinced that he is a Lion indeed.

When the Jackass went to give his speech, he brayed.

"He brays, he is a jackass", said the wise old owl.

But the hyenas used voice modulation techniques and made him roar like a lion and all the animals clapped and cheered. 

The Jackass blamed all the previous kings and told the gullible animals how they were all useless and how he was the savior who would "Make Jungle Great Again" 

The strategy of the hyenas worked... The animals, with an overwhelming majority, made the Jackass the King and threw the previous King out of the Jungle, calling him an Accidental Lion King. 

He first cut off all the leaves from the tree saying this would get in more sunlight in the jungle. 

"That's exactly what a jackass would do. No leaves will take away the natural shield we get", said the wise old owl. 

The hyenas banded together and told the wise of owl to #GoToCity

The Jackass then stopped all rivers by piling stones into them, saying this will store water for everyone. 

"That's exactly what a jackass would do. Stopping the natural flow of the river which is important in cleaning it up, just take enough water that we need and let the rest flow", said the wise old owl. 

The hyenas labeled the owl as an Anti-Jungle, called him a Jungle-Naxal and threw him in the jail.

They stuck more posters all over the jungle on the trees bereft of leaves now and all the animals happily accepted that they had got a Visionary Masterstroker as their King. 

Soon, the jungle was struck by a cold wave and the temperatures dropped and the animals begun to freeze. 

The King decided to set the trees on fire to counter the freezing cold. 

"That's exactly what a jackass would do. I had told you cutting off the leaves would take away our natural protection", said the wise old owl. 

But no one listened to him, anymore. 

The King invited everyone in the jungle to celebrate the burning of the trees. 

The King stood with his pack of hyenas as the fires raged and the animals danced around the fires, as the flames got closer and closer to them. 

He turned to the hyenas and said, "I had promised you all the animals you could eat. There, go ahead and take your pick, they would be cooked in sometime". 

"He is a jackass", came the voice from the jail, but the animals were busy celebrating the Jungle Fire Utsav. 

The flames started engulfing the animals, singeing them as the hyenas approached for their promised feast. 

Some of the flames suddenly moved towards the King and his fake mane caught on fire.

The King stood steadfast as his mane slowly started burning away, his real face exposed. 

The animals noticed it and shouted, "Damn it, we did not elect a lion, we made the jackass our King".

The wise old owl said, "You don't have to wait till the mane catches fire. You can figure out a Jackass for what he is, just by his actions. Or atleast listen to the voices of wisdom"

But there were very few animals left to listen to him now......

Awesome post must read

How a son/daughter thinks of his/her father at different age.....

At 6 years....:My Dad is great!

At 8 years....:My Daddy knows everything.

At 12 years.....: My Daddy is good but he is short tempered.

At 14 years....: My Daddy was nice to me when I was young.

At 18 years.....: My Daddy is not in line with the current times. Frankly he does not know anything.

At 20 years...: My Daddy is becoming increasingly cranky and unreasonable.

At 23 years....: Oh! It is becoming difficult to tolerate Daddy! Wonder how Mother puts up with him!

At 25 years...: Daddy is objecting to everything.. Don't know when will he understand the world.

At 32 years...: It is becoming difficult to manage my son! I used to be so scared of my Dad when I was young...

At 40 years...: Daddy brought me up with so much discipline.. I wonder how he managed to handle the younger generation!..

At 45 years....: I am baffled as to how my Daddy brought us up..

At 50 years...: My Daddy faced so many hardship to bring us up...(we were 3 brothers and 2 sisters) I am unable to manage a single child!

At 55 years...: My Daddy was so far sighted and planned so many things for us. Even at this old age, he is able to control things. He is one of his kind and unique.

At last...: ' My Daddy was great!

Don't take so many years.....Realize it on time...

Education is not a Name of Any Degree or Certificate that can be shown to others as a Proof ...

But ...

Education is the name of Our Attitude, Actions, Language , Behavior & Personality with Others in Real Life ... !!

And thus it is Rightly said that ...

To be Born with a Personality is a Gift from your Parents ...

But ...

To Die as a Personality is an Achievement of your Own and a Return Gift to your Parents ... !!