COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS !

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Count your blessings!!! Merlyn's Dad taught her this. She teaches me the same, every single day.

Merlyn is a strong and vibrant person. Someone, who would never sit and grieve for any sort of Trouble. She trained herself to be strong even from a very early age and all she practiced in life is how to laugh out one’s pain.

A few things, Merlyn taught me during the wonderful days we spent together…

How to try and be strong even when there is pain and suffering,

How to try and be happy even when things are not favorable,

How to love life even if Life deceives

Merl is a very very positive person. After her diagnosis of Aplastic Anemia, we were initially shattered. It took us a while to even understand and accept what was going on but it is Merlyn’s strength that took us through.  “Why Me?” was a question that was bothering her initially, instead she transformed herself and started questioning “Why should anyone?” Even during weekly treatments, she would bring cookies and chocolates to fellow patients. She started appreciating the beauty of even tiny things. Being the youngest patient at the hospital, everyone remembers Merl as the young lady with the beautiful smile. 

Merl always believes in ‘Sharing our blessings’. She keeps saying sharing our blessings is more important than sharing our sorrows. Her simple motto in life is "Everyone is equally blessed". If someone is blessed with more goodness, the only reason God did that is because He believes that they will share those extra blessings with the less fortune ones. That is the trust God has in us.

Even after her diagnosis, Merl signed up as an organ donor and she inspired me to enroll as well. Merl donated her hair for kids who suffered from cancer. Merlyn’s corneas are donated. I am hoping someone’s eyesight will be restored soon because of her. Again, this is something that she wanted to do. I just helped in fulfilling her dream.

 

Merlyn was receiving weekly blood/platelet transfusions for almost 4 years. Friends who saw her for the first time could never guess that she was going through something like this. During her transfusions, I would be sitting by her side talking to her, giving her company. But, one day, she says this. “Who are these folks donating blood and platelets for me every week?  What is the need for them to share their blessings?” And asks me why don’t you try donating blood so someone like me, on the other side of the donation, would feel so happy?"  Ever since, I started donating blood and platelets every 3 months. I can proudly say I am a registered organ donor, blood donor and stem cell donor. It's all because of my super girl.

Some of our friends asked why you guys don’t take support from family/friends. Honestly, with Merl by my side, I never felt the need of someone else's support. In fact I took it as an opportunity to love her more, to take care of her more. Love, Care, Respect, we feel them while receiving. We feel more, while giving. Giving abundantly. Overflowing just like rain.  

Merl has got a lot of older friends from hospital in their 70s, 80s and 90s. The amount of enthusiasm and Passion they had towards life, touched us. Merl says, at this age, when they have so much value and interest for life, why should I sit and worry. God gifted this life and I never questioned the good stuff. Why should I bother about the negatives? If this sickness wasn’t there, we wouldn’t have realized the value of life. May be, we would have been complaining about traffic and weather. May be, God uses me to bring this awareness to our society.

Some of our friends and family at the funeral told me that the smiling picture of Merlyn gave them a lot of pain. It’s true. Even the thought of Merl not being around physically, kills me, but this smile gives me strength. This particular picture was taken in a birthday party after a 2 day painful treatment. Pain is a relative term. Nobody can measure or rate pain unless we go through the situation. But, after a doctor discusses a life threating diagnosis, if someone stays positive, smiles every day and decides to live the moment. That Is Something.  Merl’s smile is a source of hope, a symbol of courage. The name Merlyn has a different meaning for me, going forward.  

Something on a lighter note!! Most men would definitely agree with me. We enjoy sharing and forwarding jokes about wife and marriage. We always give an irresponsible excuse that it’s just for fun. I understand we all respect our women. But these jokes actually hurt us; because I saw the pain and suffering that my Merl went through and on the other side, folks were laughing at jokes on wife/marriage. Any medical condition can have additional complications just because the patient is female. Women go through a lot of struggle emotionally, physically and biologically. Men are not even close. Things that our mom, sister, daughter, friends won’t trust us to discuss; only our wife does. There is a deeper meaning in marriage. We have joked about it enough. These jokes could create a negative impression about marriage and women to our future generations and younger crowd. So, I ask all my friends to take a pledge for Merlyn and stop sharing such jokes about marriage/wife on social media.  

One final request. If you are a registered stem cell donor, because of Merlyn, I want you to continue your registration. Please don’t quit the registry. There are thousands of fighters like Merl who are still waiting for a donor. I can't express how happy we were, when we heard from the doctors that Merlyn found a stem cell donor. Unfortunately, there were other complications that did not support us.

Merlyn is a strong believer, a real fighter, a true inspiration. And yes, definitely, the strongest girl I have ever seen in my real life.

Some of the expressions that excites Merl, 

#Stella  #Goodshe #PreethiHouse #Chennai #Maniratnam  #Newyork  #Broadway #Baking  #Biryani  #Dessert  #Darkchocolate… all this will continue to cheer me. This is definitely not a good bye. I will continue to live her dreams. I will continue to share my blessings.

It’s been the toughest 30 days of my life but trust me Merl, I am ok. Just following your footsteps.

It hurts only because I miss you… I miss your love and care. I miss cooking for you.

I miss the way you would jump like a puppy when I return home.

I miss how we laughed together for those dark jokes we cracked at hospitals.

I miss how we vented out our frustration from the medical reports by ordering the best desserts. 

And I miss taking care of you.

I am sure you are resting in peace, in a much better place, where pain and death has no meaning.

I personally thank every friend/family for being there for us, praying for us during this difficult time. Please continue your prayers.

If you wanna consider sharing your blessings, please register yourself @   

https://bethematch.org/   if you are in the US  or

http://datri.org/   if you are in India. 

Or Google (bonemarrow registry) for your country and register. 

Stem cell donation is just like blood donation and there is a possibility that you are the only person in the whole world who could save a life. If you are already a registered donor, please spread the word and inspire others to join. 

Merl Lives!!! 

- Merlyn & John.

*Love Your* *"Own Beautiful Wife"*

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  🔹Don’t shout at your
       wife when you are
       talking. It really 
       hurts her. 
       *Proverbs 15:1*

  🔹Do not speak evil 
       of her to anyone. 
       Your wife will become
       who you call her. 
      *Gen. 2:19*

  🔹Do not share her love
      or affection with another
      woman.
      It is called Adultery.
      *Matt. 5:28*

  🔹Never compare your
       wife to another woman.
       If the other woman was
       good for you, God would
       have given her to you.
      *2 Cor. 10:12*

  🔹Be gentle and 
       accommodating. She
       has sacrificed so much
       to be with you. 
       It hurts her deeply
       when you are hash
       and irritating. 
       Be tender.
       *Eph. 4:2*

  🔹Hide nothing from her.
       You are now one and
       she’s your helpmate.
       Let there be no secret
       you are keeping 
       from her.
       *Gen. 2:25*

  🔹Do not make negative
       comment about her
       body. She risked her
       life and beauty to carry
       your babies. She is a
       living soul not just
       flesh and blood. 
       *Proverbs 18:22*

  🔹Do not let her body
       determine her worth.
       Cherish and appreciate
       her even till old age.
       *Eph. 5:29*

  🔹Never shout at her
       in the public and in
       private. If you have
       an issue to sort with
       her, do it in the privacy
       of your room.
       *Matt. 1:19*

  🔹Thank and appreciate
       her for taking good
       care of you, the kids
       and the house. It is
       a great sacrifice she
       is making.
       *1 Thesso. 5:18*

  🔹All women cannot
       cook the same way;
       appreciate your 
       wife’s food.
       It is not easy to cook
       three meals a day,
       365 days a year 
       for several years.
       *Pro. 31:14*

  🔹Never place your 
       siblings before her.
       She is your wife. 
       She is one with you.
       She must come 
       before your family.
       *Gen. 2:24*

  🔹Invest seriously in
       her spiritual growth. 
       Buy books, tapes and
       any material that will
       edify her *&* strengthen
       her walk with God. 
       That’s the best thing
       you can do for her.
       *Eph. 5:26*

  🔹Spend time with her
       to do Bible study 
       and pray.
       *James 5:16*

  🔹Make time to play
       with her and enjoy
       her company.
       Remember when you
       are dead, she’s gonna
       be by your grave but
       your friends may be
       too busy to attend
       your funeral. 
       *Ecc. 9:9*

  🔹Never use money
       to manipulate or 
       control her. All your
       money belongs to
       her. She is a joint heir
       with you of the 
       grace of God.
       *1 Pet. 3:7*

  🔹Do not expose her
       weakness. You will be
       exposing yourself too.
       Be a shield around her.
       *Eph. 5:30*

  🔹Honour her parents
       and be kind to her
       siblings.
       *SOS. 8:2*

  🔹Never cease to tell
       her how much you
       love her all the days
       of her life. Women
       are never tired of
       hearing that.
       *Eph. 5:25*

  🔹Grow to be like Jesus.
       That’s the only way
       you can be a good
       and godly husband.
      *Rom. 8:29*


     *SAVE A HOME TODAY,* 
              *PASS IT ON* 

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*🙏What is Christian Prayer?*

✍Prayer is having conversation with God.
Prayer is a time to listen to what God is telling you.
Prayer is a time to thank God for His goodness.
Prayer is a time to worship God for who He is.
Prayer is a time to pour out your heart to God.
Prayer is a time to look to God for guidance.
Prayer is a time to ask God to forgive your sins.
Prayer is a time to tell God your needs.
Prayer is talking to God about the needs of others.
Prayer is a time to seek God and His favor.
Prayer is a time to make commitments to Him.
Prayer is a time to seek God’s will for your life.
Prayer is the way to draw closer to God.
Prayer is the source of your strength.
Prayer is a time to cry out to God in your distress.
Prayer is warfare against the enemy of your soul.
Prayer is what softens the hardest of hearts.
Prayer is what breaks bondages.
Prayer is what brings healing.
Prayer is what gives joy and peace.
Prayer is what makes impossible things possible.
Prayer is receiving divine protection against the devil.
Prayer is obtaining instructions and guidance from God.
Prayer gives wisdom and divine revelations.
Prayer gives boldness.
Prayer gives hope even in the most hopeless situation.
Prayer draws people to God and saves them.
Prayer increases faith in God.
Prayer means never giving up on God.
Prayer shows our dependence on God and not on our wisdom.  
Prayer brings victory.
Prayer always pleases God.

*Col 4:2* … _“Continue earnestly in prayer being vigilant in it with thanksgiving…”_
*1 Thess 5:17* … _“Pray without ceasing”_

*_A WEDDING GIFT:_*

She married him today. At the end of the wedding
party, her mother gave her a newly opened bank
savings passbook, with $1000 deposited in it. 

She told her, "My dear daughter, take this passbook. Keep it as a record of your married life. Whenever something
happy and memorable happens in your new life, put
some money in. Write down what it's about next to the
amount. The more memorable the event is, the more money you can put in. I've done the first one for you today. Do the others with your husband. When you look back after many years, you will know how much happiness you've both shared.' 

She shared this with
him after getting home. Both of them thought it was a
great idea and couldn't wait to make the next deposit!
This is what the passbook looked like after a while: - 
7Feb: $100, his first birthday celebration after marriage 
1 Mar: $300, she gets a salary raise 
20 Mar: $200, vacation 
15 Apr: $2000, She's pregnant! 
1 Jun: $1000, He gets the big promotion and so on...

However, as the years went by, they began fighting
and arguing over trivial things. They didn't talk much.

They regretted that they had married the most nasty
person in the world. There was no more love. 

One day she talked to her Mother. 'Mom, we can't stand it anymore. We have decided to divorce. I can't imagine how I decided to marry this guy!' 

Her mother replied, 'Sure, that's no big deal. Just do whatever you want, if
you really can't stand it. 

But before that, do one thing remember the savings passbook I gave you on your
wedding day? Take out all money and spend it first.
You shouldn't keep any record of such a poor
marriage.' 

She agreed with her mother. So she went to the bank, and was waiting in the queue to cancel the account. 

While she was waiting, she took a look at the passbook record. She looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joyful moments came back to her. Her eyes were filled with tears. 

She left and went home. When she got home, she handed the passbook to her hubby and asked him to spend the money before getting divorced. 

So the next day, he went to the bank, and was waiting in the queue to cancel the account. While he was waiting, he took a look at the passbook record. He looked, and looked, and looked. Then the memory of all the previous joyful moments came back to him. His eyes were filled with tears. 

He left and went home. He gave the passbook back to her. She found a new deposit of $5000. And a line next to the record: 'This is the day I realized how much I've loved you throughout all these years. How much happiness you've brought me.' They hugged and cried, putting the passbook back into the safe.

Marriage is not a game, it's not easy but it's beautiful. You will fight and argue, this is normal, because the both of you came from different
background, different homes and you both were raised by
different parents, beliefs and moral. So you cannot expect that everything you say will be accepted by your spouse without their opinion being tendered first. So before you give up, think back to the good times and to what brought you together in the first place.

We can fly...!!!

Hardship is part of life.  None of us can escape it, yet all of us want to.

It makes me think about how a caterpillar becomes a butterfly.  After it forms a chrysalis around itself, the caterpillar gradually changes into a butterfly inside it.  

But, exiting the chrysalis is the hardest part of the caterpillar's metamorphosis.  

You see, the new butterfly must push and pull its way out of the chrysalis, and it is quite painful to watch.  

One might think it needs to reach out and help the butterfly to escape, but this is the worst thing we could do.  

Why, you ask?  The painful process of exiting the chrysalis is the very thing that gives the butterfly enough strength to flap it's wings and fly.  Isn't that amazing? 

Sometimes, life can be a  metaphorical chrysalis of sorts.  It's uncomfortable, and we wonder why God would allow things to be so hard.  

We want an easy exit.  

But, what if this grueling season is the very thing that equips us for the calling that God has placed on us?  

What if an early exit from this difficult time would be detrimental to our life as a whole?  

When I think about hardship this way, I can see the purpose and hope in it.  

God is never finished with us.  We are all works in progress, and walking through hard times is an essential part of our growth in Him.  But, we don't have to walk through it alone.  

He is with us through every step--guiding us, holding us, and reminding us that we CAN pull through.  

After some time, we experience a beautiful transformation from the inside out. 

And, we realize that WE CAN FLY.

The best auction..!!

Here's a good one for you :)

This is a great story. Take a moment to read it; I Pray it will make your day!

A wealthy man and his son loved to collect rare works of art. They had everything in their collection, from Picasso to Raphael. They would often sit together and admire the great works of art..

When the Vietnam conflict broke out, the son went to war. He was very courageous and died in battle while rescuing another soldier. The father was notified and grieved deeply for his only son.

 About a month later, just before Christmas, There was a knock at the door. A young man stood at the door with a large package in his hands..

 He said, 'Sir, you don't know me, but I am the soldier for whom your son gave his life. He saved many lives that day, and he was carrying me to safety when a bullet struck him in the heart and he died instantly... He often talked about you, and your love for art.' The young man held out this package. 'I know this isn't much. I'm not really a great artist, but I think your son would have wanted you to have this.'

The father opened the package. It was a portrait of his son, painted by the young man. He stared in awe at the way the soldier had captured the personality of his son in the painting. The father was so drawn to the eyes that his own eyes welled up with tears. He thanked the young man and offered to pay him for the picture.. 'Oh, no sir, I could never repay what your son did for me. It's a gift.'

The father hung the portrait over his mantle. Every time visitors came to his home he took them to see the portrait of his son before he showed them any of the other great works he had collected.

The man died a few months later. There was to be a great auction of his paintings. Many influential people gathered, excited over seeing the great paintings and having an opportunity to purchase one for their collection.

On the platform sat the painting of the son. The auctioneer pounded his gavel. 'We will start the bidding with this picture of the son. Who will bid for this picture?'

 There was silence...

 Then a voice in the back of the room shouted, 'We want to see the famous paintings. Skip this one.'

But the auctioneer persisted 'Will somebody bid for this painting? Who will start the bidding? $100, $200?'
Another voice angrily. 'We didn't come to see this painting. We came to see the Van Gogh's, the Rembrandts. Get on with the Real bids!'

But still the auctioneer continued. 'The son! The son! Who'll take the son?'
Finally, a voice came from the very back of the room. It was the longtime gardener of the man and his son. 'I'll give $10 for the painting...' Being a poor man, it was all he could afford.

'We have $10, who will bid $20?'
'Give it to him for $10. Let's see the masters.'

The crowd was becoming angry They didn't want the picture of the son.

 They wanted the more worthy investments for their collections.

The auctioneer pounded the gavel.. 'Going once, twice, SOLD for $10!'

A man sitting on the second row shouted, 'Now let's get on with the collection!'

The auctioneer laid down his gavel. 'I'm sorry, the auction is over.'

'What about the paintings?'

'I am sorry. When I was called to conduct this auction, I was told of a secret stipulation in the will... I was not allowed to reveal that stipulation until this time. Only the painting of the son would be auctioned. Whoever bought that painting would inherit the entire estate, including the paintings.

The man who took the son gets everything!'

God gave His son over 2,000 years ago to die on the Cross. Much like the auctioneer, His message today is: 'The Son, the Son, who'll take the Son?'

Because, you see, whoever takes the Son gets everything!

FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON, WHO SO EVER BELIEVETH, SHALL HAVE ETERNAL LIFE...THAT'S LOVE

Amazing story

AMAZING STORY:

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her. 

Even with the smile on his face, she looked worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn't look safe; he looked poor and hungry. 

He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was that chill which only fear can put in you. 

He said, 'I'm here to help you, ma'am. Why don't you wait in the car where it's warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.' 

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt. 

As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn't thank him enough for coming to her aid. 

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way. 

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, 'And think of me.'

He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight. 

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn't erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan .. 

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin. 

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: 'You don't owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I'm helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.' 

Under the napkin were four more $100. 

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard.... 

She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, 'Everything's going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.'

The modern day Ruth

Did you know that you can take that place of pain and turn it into most precious intimate moments with your Heavenly Father? Your place of pain can be a setup for your biggest blessing. We don't always understand why we have to go through heartaches, trials, tears, and struggles, but His love is faithful to meet us there. He is with us. He does not leave us or forsake us. I think, for me, I have more compassion for those who have a broken heart or those who deal with sickness or debilitating pain.

I started this ministry in my most broken of times. My husband had left me to raise our kids on my own. He walked away from God and our marriage. Then, a year later, I was dating a guy who told me everything I longed to hear. A few months later he disappeared with no warning or explanation. I found out a week later he had left me for an old girlfriend. My heart was shattered to pieces. I remember the hours of crying and the tidal waves of emotion that felt impossible to survive. I imagined Him holding my hand, and I knew I had to ride those waves of pain...it was part of the process.

During that time, I remembered the scripture that says:

" When you pass through the waters,

    I will be with you;

and when you pass through the rivers,

    they will not sweep over you.

When you walk through the fire,

    you will not be burned;

    the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2

His hands are not too short to reach down to the place of pain and heartache you are in.

"He reached down from on high and took hold of me; he drew me out of deep waters." Psalms 18:16

Don't feel bad if you shed tears. It doesn't mean you are going backwards -it's part of the healing process. Let His love wrap you and hold you. Cling to Him and He will not let you drown. He is your life preserver. You will overcome this temporary season. You will overcome in Jesus' name. Your testimony is being developed into a love story. One of His love and redeeming grace. Your beauty will come from your ashes, Beloved. ~ Jenny Williams, A Modern Day Ruth, Copyright 2015

★★★Such a wonderful story★★★

A very poor newly wedded, young couple lived in a small farm. One day the husband made the following proposal to his wife:

Honey, I will leave the house: I will travel faraway, get a job and work hard in order to come back and give you the comfortable life that you deserve. I do not know how long I will stay away, I only ask one thing, please wait for me, and while I am away, you should be faithful to me, because I will be faithful to you. His wife agreed, so the young man left. He walked many days until he found a farmer who was in need of someone to help him. The young man offered his services. He was accepted. Therefore he discussed the terms with his boss:
Let me work for as long as I want and when I think I should go home, please relieve me of my duties. I do not want to receive my salary. I ask you to save it for me, until the day I leave. The day I decide to go, please give me the money and I will go my way. They agreed on that. So, the young man worked for twenty years without holiday and without rest. After twenty years, he came to his boss and said:
Boss, I want my money, because I am returning to my home. The boss replied:
All right, after all, I made a deal with you and I will stick to it. However, before you go I want to offer you something new: I will give you all your money and send you away; or I will give you 3 pieces of advice and send you away. If I give you money, you lose the 3 pieces of advice. If I give you the 3 pieces of advice, you lose the money. Now, go to your room and think about your answer. He thought for two days. Then he went to the boss and told him:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss stressed again, if I give you the 3 pieces of advice, I will not give you the money, and the man replied:
I want the 3 pieces of advice. The boss then told him:
No. 1: Never take shortcuts in your life, shorter and unknown paths can cost your life. No. 2: Never be too curious, for curiosity towards evil can be deadly. No. 3: Never make decisions in moments of anger or pain, because when you repent, it could be too late. After giving these 3 pieces of advice, the boss said to him:
Here, you have 3 loaves of bread, 2 are for you to eat during the journey and the last is for you to eat with your wife when you get home. So, the man went his way, after twenty years away from home and from his wife, whom he loved so much. After the first day of travel, he found a man who greeted him and asked:
Where are you going? He replied:
To a distant place which is about 20 days away if I continue walking. The man said to him:
Ol' boy, this path is too long! I know a shortcut that is very safe and you will arrive in 5 days only. The man began to follow the path suggested until he remembered the first piece of advice. Then, he returned and followed the long path. Days later he learned that the shortcut led to an ambush.
After a few more days of travel, he found an inn by the roadside, where he could rest. He paid for a room and after taking a bath he lay down to sleep. During the night he woke up as he heard a terrifying scream. He rose to his feet and went to the door to check what happened. As he was opening the door, he remembered the second piece of advice. Therefore he returned, lay down again and slept. At dawn, after breakfast, the owner of the lodging asked him if he had not heard the scream at night. He affirmed that he heard. Then, the host said:
Were you not curious to see what happened? And he replied:
No, I was not. Then the host said:
You are the first guest to leave this inn alive. My neighbour is completely crazy. He usually shouts at night to call someone’s attention. When some of the guests come out, he kills them and buries their bodies in the backyard. The man continued his long journey, eager to arrive soon.
After many days and nights walking, he was very tired, but he finally saw his house far away. It was night. He saw some light coming out of the window of his house and was able to see the silhouette of his wife. But he also saw that she was not alone. He came closer and saw there was a man with her. She softly caressed his hair. When he saw that scene, his heart was filled with hatred and bitterness. He decided to rush at and kill them both mercilessly. However, he took a deep breath and he remembered the third piece of advice. Then he stopped, reflected and decided to sleep outside that night. He slept in the midst of the bushes, determined to make a decision the next day. At dawn, he was calmer and thought:
I will not kill my wife and her lover. I am going back to my boss to ask him to take me back. But before I go, I want to tell my wife that I have always been faithful to her.
He went to the front door and knocked. When his wife opened the door and recognized him, she cried and embraced him warmly. He tried to push her away, but he
was not able. Then, with tears in his eyes he told her:
I was faithful to you but you betrayed me.
She was shocked, so she replied:
How did I betray you? I have never betrayed you. I waited patiently for you for twenty good years. Then he asked:
How about the man that you were caressing yesterday? And she said:
That man is your son. When you left, I discovered I was pregnant. Today he is twenty years old. Hearing that, the man asked her forgiveness. He met and hugged his son. Then he told them all the things he had experienced while away. Meanwhile, his wife prepared some coffee for them to eat together, the last bread given by his boss. After a prayer of thanksgiving, he broke the bread. When he looked at it, he found all his money inside. In fact, there was even more than the right payment for his twenty years of dedication and hard work.
Friends, our God is like this boss. When he asks us to make a sacrifice, he wants to give us more than what we give Him. He wants us to have His unique wisdom as well as the
material blessings.

Important rules and regulations. ..!!!

●Don’t shout at your wife when you are
talking. It really hurts her. (Proverbs 15:1)
●Do not speak evil of her to anyone. Your wife
will become who you call her. (Gen. 2:19)
●Do not share her love or affection with
another woman. It is called Adultery. (Matt. 5:28)
●Never compare your wife to another woman.
If the other woman was good for you, God
would have given her to you. (2 Cor. 10:12)
●Don’t ever allow her to beg you for sex. She
owns your body just as you own her body. (1 Cor. 7:5)
●Be gentle and accommodating. She has
sacrificed so much to be with you. It hurts her
deeply when you are hash and irritating. Be
tender. (Eph. 4:2) ●Hide nothing from her. You
are now one and she’s your helpmeet. Let there be no secret
you are keeping from her. (Gen. 2:25)
●Do not make negative comment about her
body. She risked her life and beauty to carry
your babies. She is a living soul not just flesh
and blood. ●Do not let her body determine her worth.
Cherish and appreciate her even till old age.
(Eph. 5:29)
●Never shout at her in the public and in
private. If you have an issue to sort with her,
do it in the privacy of your room. (Matt. 1:19) ●Thank and appreciate her for taking good
care of you, the kids and the house. It is a
great sacrifice she is making. (1 The 5:18)
●All women cannot cook the same way;
appreciate your wife’s food. It is not easy to
cook three meals a day, 365 days a year for several years. (Pro. 31:14)
●Never place your siblings before her. She is
your wife. She is one with you. She must come
before your family. (Gen. 2:24)
●Invest seriously in her spiritual growth. Buy
books, tapes and any material that will edify her and strengthen her walk with God. That’s
the best thing you can do for her. (Eph. 5:26)
●Spend time with her to do Bible study and
pray. (James 5:16)
●Make time to play with her and enjoy her
company. Remember when you are dead, she’s gonna be by your grave but your friends may
be too busy to attend your funeral. (Ecc. 9:9)
●Never use money to manipulate or control
her. All your money belongs to her. She is a
joint heir with you of the grace of God. (1 Pet.
3:7) ●Do not expose her weakness. You will be
exposing yourself too. Be a shield around her.
(Eph. 5:30)
●Honour her parents and be kind to her
siblings. (SOS 8:2) ●Never cease to tell her
how much you love her all the days of her life. Women are never
tired of hearing that. (Eph. 5:25)
●Grow to be like Christian ,That’s the only way
you can be a good and godly husband. (Rom.
8:29) AMEN